Will this experience be the same as the previous one? How can you be sure things will work out this time? And will you find someone who will like you at this age when you also have kids?
Common Fears of Single Parent Dating
Fear of the Children’s Reaction
One common fear is how the children will take the fact that you’re dating. Yes, it is your life but then you are their mom! When you tell them you’re going on dates, they may start thinking they have lost you. This can make them panic and they can resist your going for dates very much.
When dating again, it is important that you talk to them and lovingly tell them that you will always be there for them. Remember: your children want to see you happy too, they’re only afraid of you going away. Tell them you will be by their side no matter who you date. Tell them they will still be extremely important for you. Also tell them why you’re going on a date and how a new partner will be good for them too.
If you address their fears and concerns, they will slowly start feeling happy for you and even get excited about your date! In any case, do not make the mistake of rubbishing their concerns or neglecting their fears – instead, make your children your allies in your search for a partner.
Fear of Not Being Liked For Who You Are Since it’s definitely been a long time you last went on a date you might actually think:
Will anyone like me anymore?
Well, you will have to trust that there will be someone out there who will like you for being just the way you are. You may not be as ‘Hots’ as you were in the olden days and you may have lost some of that charm, but then you have also learnt now that those things are essentially superficial anyway.
